Extraordinary Times

 I had one of the most embarrassing moments of my life.It made me realize to what lengths have I allowed my self to fall.But I knew it all the way back and felt myself so helpless in the situation .I knew I have to do more and knew that I can do more but i was simply unable to pull my self up and together to work for the goal I want to achieve.But certain moments have what even long stretches of time cannot provide us
It was the dark era of "Laila Tul Qadar" that led to Quran being sent down from the heavens to herald the dawn of a new era in the history man kind which would take humans to such spiritual heights as never witnessed before.
Religious persecution, the perpetrators don't understand blow such a spirit in the life of a community who suffers that even a century of struggle cannot create.The mind becomes clear , the path of achieving a goal is selected with ease and the community comes together to strive in such a way that is other wise impossible.
During exams students come to have such studying capacity and focus of mind that easily lets them cover in days what normally would  take months.
I am talking about a similar extraordinary moment , a moment that unleashes powers that earlier were present but remained hidden in an unusable manner.Our God calls Himself "RAAB" the one who nourishes from a simple and unsignifcant small stages to higher complex and useful states.
I believe that moments of hardships in this world are to take us out of our lower states to higher ones.Its for us to choose that we act proactively and let that moment be our prize or don't give any heed and bring about destruction on ourselves.
For me Hell would be a similar place,the people who didn't utilize the opportunities of self development in this world would be forced through hardships to come out of those pit holes and build themselves for those favors that their creator wants them to have,a place called AL-Jannah where their efforts will flow like rivulets  unhindered and give them a  potential of limitless growth similar to a lush green garden with springs flowing underneath and a place whose prizes would never fade.
A day before I felt so powerless over my condition  that I wanted to quit and now I vow to fight and not let myself be steered away mindlessly in the abysses of self pity.My perspective on life has refreshened and I feel much more clear and controlled and determined.I don't know weather I would achieve what I want to but now I will try with a new vigour.I know one single moment is never enough ,I need a fuel for a life time ,this is one of the main differences between reality and fiction.There one scene changes into another without the uncertainty that the life disposes us to and here we have to live through each single moment.

People think about things more abstractly when they perceive that they're further away in time or space (e.g. see earlier). In terms of negotiations, thinking more abstractly is beneficial because it encourages negotiators to reflect on and express their underlying motives and priorities.(...)

Psychology from the week

*''One of the things you do find cross-culturally is that children are particularly affected by and easily influenced by the threat of punishment from supernatural agents. This is a behavior regulation device, a control mechanism to prevent children from doing things we don't want them to do when they think we're not watching.

It's an additional mechanism on top of self-control that would prevent them from doing things that would ultimately cause them problems or their parents problems........''

**You might have thought it before doing a thing you considered wrong;'' well after all who can understand better than God''.The writer is explaining some helpful evolutionary inconsistencies in committing a sin 

''When people are basically convinced that God is on their side and God understands why they're doing what they're doing, there are lots of loopholes psychologically that also work alongside reproductive interests.''

(Times)

***I  found these lines from a book of psychology

''Children tend to go to their mothers for emotional comfort and to their fathers for playing''

MY inference:

This fact how some how define roles of parents.A father helps increase the creativity and IQ of the child while EQ of the child is determined by the mother.The stronger the bond is with the mother ,more stable is child emotionally. 

Gifted childern

 By far the majority of studies of the gifted and talented have found them to be emotionally stronger than others, with higher productivity, higher motivation and drive, and lower levels of anxiety. Indeed, high level creativity, in particular, requires real strength of character to overcome the forces of conventionality and the sneers of those who do not understand.

How to spot a clever toddler
Here are the important things an adult can do for a bright child. The old physical milestones of when a child first sits up, crawls, stands up, or walks, are no longer seen as firm pointers to future intellectual  potential, but they are excellent indicators. Gifted children are just as different from one another as any other group of children - some may be lively, into everything and very friendly, while others can be shy and prefer to keep to themselves. Here are four strong clues.
Lively minds:
The most noticeable feature of gifted children is the liveliness of their minds. This
comes across in many ways, especially in their delight with words. Even as toddlers
they’re usually very quick to spot tiny differences and catch on to unusual
associations between ideas.

Awareness:
Gifted little ones use their radar brains to seek and absorb information, sometimes
catching your meaning before you’ve reached the end of your sentence. They copy
other people’s behaviour and learn fast from the experience. Sometimes they seem
quite grown-up, but genuine maturity will come later.
Ability to learn:
A keen appetite for learning marks out the gifted, so that when they’re given the
chance they grab it. As they get older, their knowledge often becomes wider and
deeper than that of other children of the same age so they seem to be even more
intelligent. Parents wonder where clever children get all their knowledge from; they
seem to absorb it from everywhere - television, people’s conversations – the air!
Independence:
The clever toddler takes pride in what they can do. Even in their first few days at
proper school, they’re usually outstandingly independent and competent, though some
get a shock when they find all the others working at a very much lower level. Some
develop special interests even at nursery school, though these might change. By the
time they reach primary school, they may be really beginning to know their way
around a subject.
(excerpts from articles of joan freeman ,a psychologist researching on gifted childern)